GLK

You just can't do it until you believe it.

After dinner tonight, my sis and I got into a conversation about losing fat. She was complaining that she's gaining "a little" weight recently. I agreed with her.

I had been on diets and training in order to lose some weight myself to certain levels of success, and so I thought I could share some of my insights with her. How self-assuming I was.

A point of note, my sis is 18 this year, and in the best interests of her, from MY point of view, this is about the age she should start getting "shaped-up", as most fat-girl-turned-hottie had gone through their transformation by the end of their teens.
An increasingly heated conversation followed.

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GLK: Hey sometimes you just have to get the resolve and go through it. (refering to a diet/ training program) Do it once and for all.

Sis: You must realise that there is not an end to it. It (the process of losing the fat and staying that way) is always ongoing.

GLK: Ok, how about you tell me what's the end result you want?

Sis: There's no end to IT!

GLK: What do you mean there's no end?! Of course there is an end to all this. (I'm getting to it myself.)

Sis: This is just so not logical the way you said it, there's just no end to it.

GLK: [Pauses]

GLK: Ok, first you must set an end result you want. So what's the end result you want?

Sis: No [Voice raising]. You just DUN get it, there's no end to it, and you are sounding like a self improvement audio tape already.

GLK: Ok. [Silence]

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I could sense her doubts, perhaps even fear that she will not be able to attain the sort of svelve figure that is so desireable.

Which brings be to one thought:

"For one to achieve great success, one must first believe in thyself's ability to attain it." Motivational Gurus.

In Mark 9:23 JESUS said, “If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes.”

I heard quotes like this before, used in situations by well-meaning frens/ family to encourage me. However deep down, there was a fear of failure combined with the lack of self-belief, which led me to believe that back then, that I was unable to meet with the expectations.

This made me realised immediately what my self-denying sister was thinking and feeling as my "harsh" words and expectations fell upon her. What I saw clearly as a totally attainable goal, she saw an insurmountable challenge.

Then it HIT me:

I wasn't so much different than my sister that I had assumed. Just so that I was able to go through my diet and shed inches of my waistline does not make me anymore superior than her. For when I was cast into a similar position once before, I chose the same option she did. Which is to continue living in my self-denial rather than to accept the greater vision that others saw in me.

This little experience taught me a great lesson, that is I must learn to expand my mind and broaden my vision, that I may be able to fulfil the destiny that God had for me.

I also taught me to be more understanding and patient in leading others, for I know that my sis must first see for herself the potential I saw in her now. So when the day comes, I will offer her my own experience and knowledge to help her attain that goal.

Till then, I have much work to do on myself, for there are many areas of my life which needs urgent addressing for now...